With the New Year upon us we’re all looking to start fresh and resolute to be and do better. I think that people that know me would say that I am a driven person, I love making goals. It is something that I do often. I’ve had a couple thoughts come to me this New Year. With the passing of our sweet beloved prophet Thomas S. Monson. In reviewing his words he has said, I came across this quote from him. “Of this be sure: you do not find the happy life-you make it.”
I’m a firm believer in being a doer and working hard to accomplish goals and dreams. I love this quote, because I think so many of us blame our circumstances for not being where we want to be. In this post I wanted to share some of my tips for making New Year Resolutions and accomplishing your goals.
- Choose realistic goals. I’m not trying to say not to dream big and shoot for the stars. I think you should ALWAYS have a big dream. In setting your goals, my advice is to, not go straight for your dream. Start smaller and build to your dream. For example, if your dream is to have a six pack. Don’t set your goal to have a six pack. Set your goal to exercise 5-6 days a week for an hour. Always have your dream of a six pack in the back of your mind, as you shoot to accomplish your smaller goal of showing up everyday. There are many other examples, but I think you get the point.
- Shoot for improvement, not perfection. I think sometimes when setting new year resolutions we expect perfection and we forget that we are humans. It is impossible for us to reach perfection while in our mortal state. Continuing on with the example above. You set the goal of getting a six pack. You realize we need to workout everyday to reach our goal. You do really well the first week maybe even the second week of January. Life happens and you only make it to the gym two times in a week. Instead of celebrating that you made it to the gym twice that week (two times more than you usually ever make it in any given week), you beat yourself up and give up on your goals. Instead you should look at the improvement that you’ve made, and resolve to try to continue improving to reach your goal.
- Discover your why. We all have a why behind our goals and dreams. Discover what your why is and if it isn’t big enough it may be time to change your why or to reevaluate your goal or even dream. If you want a six pack to look good next summer while swimming, that may not be a strong enough why to push through a 5 am workout.
- Focus on one or two goals at a time. I think we’re all guilty especially in the social media world we live in to want to be the best in all things, yet we never feel like we measure up. If you choose one or two things to put all of your time, energy, and passion into improving in your life, you’re bound to find more success. There is no substitute for hard work. The fact of the matter is you have to implement change everyday. Small acts amount to big changes. If you have one goal you can put all of your focus into rather than dividing up your time and energy among others you will find that you will become more driven and have more energy to be successful in that area.
- Be you. Set goals to improve yourself, not to become like someone else. Evaluate your strengths, gifts, and talents you have, and improve them. The best thing you can be is yourself. I came across the song Irreplaceable by Madilyn Page. These lyrics stuck out to me.
Somehow I find a way
It’s never easy
Why is it so hard?
All I’ve ever wanted
Is to be like them
I don’t understand
Why I am who I am
When I find I’m all alone
Gotta tell myself
Bend it back
Quit tryna be someone else
You were created as an individual. I was pondering the other day what it was like as my Father in Heaven created me. How he thought it was important that there be a me with all of my strengths, weaknesses, beauties, and flaws. I was overcome with His love for me. It was a tender mercy for me. It’s hard to not lose yourself among everyone else. It’s hard to not constantly compare and look at someone else’s positive and compare it to your negative. If you question how God feels about you or how you should feel about yourself ask Him. Pray to Him sincerely and He will tell you how special you are.
Think of yourself as you set your new year goals, think of how you want to improve. Build yourself. Not how you can become like someone else. 2018 is your year to improve and ultimately become closer to the person you want to become, that God knows you can become.
“The latchstring hangs from the outside.”